Talk About Sex Only For The Bedroom
Before I enter upon this subject, I first mention the following. Men give love to get sex and women give sex to get love. Generalizing of course. In this way they are both really at odds with each other and not at all in a harmonious relationship. In order to learn to love you MUST avoid petting and even hugging and kissing profusely before you are married. At first you MUST learn to communicate and learn to appreciate the character of the other. If you do not, your relationship and marriage will turn to shambles. When times get tough--and that will happen--and your relationship is put to the test; it will not be saved by the bed, but by loving self sacrifice. Men tend to be egoists and women tend to be on the side of self sacrifice and both tend to go far in this. The bible calls men up to love their wives with all the power of their will and heart (agape love) and to live with her according to understanding and tender appreciation. Sex is not a good basis for a marital relationship. Personally I failed in almost all of this.
Therefore
it is a good thing if a guy first learns to keep his sex drive under
control and not to think that his masculinity depends on sex alone. He
MUST learn to give emotional warmth. Sex without love is selfish lust
and it is a form of masturbation or even statutory rape. The idea of
consenting adults (nowadays also at a very early age) is a male
invention to keep women that do not know better under control. In times
of so-called sexual liberation almost always the women are the victims
and the children will be so later. The best thing a man can do for his
children is in the first place to really love their mother. As the
marriage progresses in time men tend to become embittered and women tend
to get disappointed accordingly. Also a man tends to take frustrations
incurred on the job or in life out on his wife and the woman will lose
her friendly appreciation for him and often will rebel in subtle ways
and later openly and the man will feel inclined to go to the public
women or to keep a mistress.
Personally I give preference to
natural methods of preventing too many pregnancies (such as the Billings
method or the basal thermometer when the woman has a stable cycle ((the
daughters of Lot knew exactly when they were fertile and as women in
the same household, they had the same cycle!)) ), but I do not condemn
people that take recourse to prophylectics; for there is a place for
these. Those conservative or rebellious women that think they can simply
make their husbands abstain for long times, should heed the apostle
Paul who warns that the devil will tempt both the woman and the man.
And
so I have already begun to talk about sex outside of the bedroom. In
conservative circles there is a tendency to suppress the subject of sex.
This because people are ashamed and feel guilty. And the latter not
without a reason! In this short article I would like to defend the good
of a gradual sex education for our children and even for ourselves as
adults and that long into the marriage. Obviously most of us need not
know what criminal investigators, sexologists or physicians are
acquainted with. As far as art, novels and movies are concerned it would
be good not to be too explicit and to avoid showing the marriage act;
but rather to describe the latter in figurative ways. We would do well
not to take advantage of nudity for dubious purposes, but look upon it
(I do not mean [soft]porn!) as an artful part of creation; as something
that goes beyond the personal sex between a rightful couple. Also, if we
are decent about this, young people can be told that this is something
the Lord has created.
I remember having been caught by my mother
on having bought all kinds of books on sex education, as on my 15th I
was already worrying about making my future wife pregnant every year.
She lay hold of the books, hid them and took me to my father and he said
that I need not worry as things were as easy as in the case of our dog.
I was infuriated, comparing me with our dog!
The bible speaks
the language of humans is meant for humans and is occupied with those
things that are important for humans. Without a doubt this includes sexuality. If you hush this away, only trouble can ensue. If you treasured this article and you simply would like to acquire more info with regards to 女王様 please visit our own page.